Every Friday, I host a Shabbat for my friends, family, business associates, and other people I like or want to get to know.
The point of our Shabbat is to go DEEP into conversations, help each other in business… and just relax after a long week.
Shabbat isn’t only if you’re Jewish. Anyone can do their own Friday dinner to grow relationships and business partnerships.
Today, I’m going to show you how I do my Shabbat — so you can copy it.
Here are the 14 key parts:
- Phones off. Start with everyone turning off the phone.
- Warm up. I ask everyone to say “Oh yeah!” as a warm-up.
- “Why do you do Shabbat?” Even if people have never done Shabbat before, I’m curious what they expect.
- Three prayers. Candle prayer, wine prayer, and bread prayer.
- Start dinner. At this point, people start eating — and chatting about things. I try to keep the agenda moving along, and let people have open discussion at the end instead.
- Highlights of the week. Everyone shares something interesting about their weeks. After someone shares his or her highlights, everyone says “Dilly dilly!”
- Kvetches time. For people who want to share their biggest complaint of the week. It could be anything. Whenever someone says a kvetch, we say “OY VEY!”
- Thought of the week. I put a 15-minute timer on to discuss a specific topic. For example, recently we talked about how to balance work and a relationship. When people go deeper, it strengthens the bonds.
- Financial session. Anything about money: financial questions, “Jew” hacks, lifehacks, books, stock picks, or financial sites that you found.
- Single session. I’ll get people who are single to describe what they want in a partner. So if someone sees or knows someone who fits the description.
- Announcement. Open session for anyone who wants to say something or anything.
- Moment of silence. For 30 seconds, go around the room, look at every person’s eyes, but stay silent. This is AMAZING!
- Blessing. Point out someone in the room, say something positive. And at the end of it, say “BLESS!” out loud.
- Take a group photo. As my buddy Neville says, “Selfie or it never happens.” To end the Shabbat, we would do a group hug and then a group selfie.
Challenge: Instead of doing the same stuff this Friday, host a dinner party this weekend. How did it go? Leave a comment below.